They say good things come in threes—three wishes, three musketeers, and even three scoops of ice cream.

 
So, what about relationships? Can three be a magic number when it comes to intimacy?

March 3 marks Threesome Day, a date dedicated to exploring the idea of expanding pleasure and connection in a way that’s exciting, respectful, and safe for everyone involved.

It doesn’t matter if you're simply curious, considering adding a third, or actively navigating the experience, this guide will help you understand the dos, don’ts, and everything in between when it comes to exploring pleasure together.

Threesomes: More Than Just a Fantasy

Threesomes are often a topic of fascination in media, movies, and late-night conversations. Whether it’s a steamy scene on-screen or a whispered secret between friends, the idea of being with two partners at once sparks curiosity for many.

A recent survey found that nearly 80% of people have fantasized about a threesome, but far fewer actually take the plunge. Why? Because fantasy and reality are two very different things.

Adding a third person to an intimate moment introduces new emotions, boundaries, and dynamics that require careful consideration.

Before jumping in, it’s crucial to ask yourself:

• Why do I (or we) want to do this?
• Are we doing this for the right reasons?
• How will this impact my relationship(s)?
• Am I prepared for unexpected emotions?

One of the best “quotes in sex” that applies here is from Esther Perel, a world-renowned psychotherapist, author, and speaker who specializes in relationships, intimacy, and modern love dynamics: "In order to be intimate with someone else, you have to first be intimate with yourself."

Understanding your desires, boundaries, and emotional readiness is step one before ever inviting another person into your bed.

Communication is Key: Setting Boundaries & Expectations

For a successful, stress-free threesome, open and honest communication is essential.

Discuss expectations, limits, and concerns with your partner (if applicable) and any potential third party.

Key topics to discuss:
✔ Who will be involved? (A stranger? A friend? Someone you trust?)
✔ What are the ground rules? (What is allowed? What’s off-limits?)
✔ How will we communicate before, during, and after?
✔ What if someone changes their mind mid-experience?

A helpful quote of sex from Dan Savage, an American author, journalist, and LGBTQ+ activist, best known for his sex-positive advice column, Savage Love, reminds us:

"Good, giving, and game—but with boundaries."

Being open-minded is great, but everyone involved should feel safe, respected, and empowered to speak up at any point.

Exploring Pleasure Together: Enhancing the Experience

Once the big conversations are out of the way, it’s time to set the scene for pleasure. 

A few simple tips can enhance comfort, connection, and enjoyment for all parties involved.

🔥 Use a Neutral Space
If possible, opt for a neutral location like a hotel room. This keeps the experience separate from a couple’s shared personal space and prevents lingering discomfort.

🔥 Lubrication is a Must
With multiple partners comes more friction—literally! High-quality lubes like Swiss Navy® Water-Based or Silicone Lubricants ensure smooth, lasting pleasure.

🔥 Practice Safer Sex
STI protection is non-negotiable in any intimate setting, but especially in group encounters. Condoms and dental dams should be readily available, and everyone should be on the same page about sexual health.

🔥 Stay in the Moment
Instead of overthinking, focus on sensation, connection, and pleasure. Stay present and engaged to ensure everyone feels included and satisfied.

Common Concerns & Myths About Threesomes

Even if you’re interested in exploring a threesome, you might have lingering fears or misconceptions.

Let’s address some of the biggest myths.

🚫 MYTH #1: Threesomes Are Only for Open Relationships
✅ TRUTH: Many monogamous couples explore threesomes without shifting into non-monogamy. It’s all about boundaries and trust.

🚫 MYTH #2: It Will Ruin Your Relationship
✅ TRUTH: It can strengthen a relationship if both partners are open, honest, and aligned in their desires. However, if someone feels pressured, it can lead to tension.

🚫 MYTH #3: It’s Always a Perfect, Mind-Blowing Experience
✅ TRUTH: Like any intimate encounter, it can be fun, awkward, exciting, or all of the above. The key is to embrace the experience without unrealistic expectations.

🚫 MYTH #4: Only Men Want Threesomes
✅ TRUTH: Surveys show that women are just as likely to fantasize about threesomes as men. The dynamic just varies based on personal preferences.

Aftercare: What Happens Next?

After the excitement fades, it’s important to check in with yourself and everyone involved. Post-threesome emotions can range from euphoria to unexpected jealousy.

Tips for Aftercare:
💙 Talk About It: Discuss what went well and any lingering feelings.
💙 Cuddle & Reconnect: If you're in a relationship, focus on bonding afterward.
💙 Respect Privacy: Avoid bragging or sharing intimate details.

If all parties feel positive and respected, the experience can be a memorable and enjoyable one.

Final Thoughts: Is a Threesome Right for You?

Threesomes can be an exciting way to explore new desires, strengthen connections, and create unforgettable memories. But they also require maturity, self-awareness, and clear communication.

As one last quote of sex wisdom, consider this from Emily Nagoski, author of bestselling book, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life: "The most important thing about sex is not what you do, but how you feel while you’re doing it."

If you and your partner (or partners) approach this with care, respect, and enthusiasm, then March 3 might just be your lucky day!


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